Can a crisis bring a family closer together?  A crisis in a family is a very good opportunity for a family to become closer together.  We do this with an open communication in the family and especially with our spouse. 

It is important to seek for counsel, guidance, help, and to share your feelings with your spouse. When we do this we are opening ourselves and showing that we are trying.  We also see things that usually may be misread if not really talked about.  This starts the family off in a great start.  When a couple will talk about a problem before bringing I up to the family it helps each other get on the same page. So that when they go to the family to have open conversation the parents on are on the same page and they will not start a fight about certain topics because they have already discussed it.

What are some things we can do to protect our marriages from ending?  I think that we need to stay away from social media, in many forms of it.  I say that this includes some of the biggest reasons we know of for divorce. Such as pornography or idealized models, most of our expectations come from what we see on television.  Marriage is fabulous and totally worth it but is it hard work.  It takes a lot of working together and communication to make things work. 

 Also another one is to not socialize with old friends of the opposite gender by yourself.  Also do not share problems with them those are things that you should discuss with your spouse.  When we discuss problems or stresses it is a time to connect.  If we do this with somebody other than our spouse we then are setting ourselves up.

How do we keep a strong relationship after marriage? I like these four steps that a President Kimball the prophet of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints suggested to use.  The first step he said was to go into marriage with a good selection of a spouse and have the same main values and goals.  I really like this step a lot times people just get caught up in physical reactions they do not realize that they really do not have the same goals and values.  This is a big step into a successful marriage. 

            The second step is to have great unselfishness.  Many marriages end because of selfishness.  When we only think of ourselves in every situation it gets easy to see every negative impact, even if it is not meant to be a negative response. 

            The third step is to have a complete obedience of the commandments.  Each of the Ten Commandments are there to help the family and help us become one. They teach us patience, obedience, and love for others. Then fourth is to continue courtship. This gives us time to focus on each other and take some time to forget the daily problems and to remember why we came together in the first place.

Why is it so important to date not to just hang out?  It is important because when we have a date that is planned, paid for, and paired off.  These are things that are showing us how a person really is going to preside, provide, and protect us especially if you are a girl.  For the men it shows how she will nurture the family.  The real question is how would a date show us that and not hanging out? 

Many people will say I am with him or her every night I see him and know him better than anybody else does.  The thing is I have had experience with this when I just hang out with a guy and if I ever mentioned that he should go out on a date he would say well kind of have and if he does take me out I see a whole new side he will have me pay for myself he is not a gentleman and he kind of still does whatever he wants to do.  Now I have gone out with guys that have planned in advance, pay for it, and we are paired off.  When they can show you that they can be with just you and care for your needs for even one night they are showing that they are not afraid to commit. Even with them I see a different side then when I am just hanging out.  Like my professor has said many times “The traditions that you start in your dating are going to continue through your marriage and are not likely to change a lot.

Why is it so important to date not to just hang out?  It is important because when we have a date that is planned, paid for, and paired off.  These are things that are showing us how a person really is going to preside, provide, and protect us especially if you are a girl.  For the men it shows how she will nurture the family.  The real question is how would a date show us that and not hanging out? 

Many people will say I am with him or her every night I see him and know him better than anybody else does.  The thing is I have had experience with this when I just hang out with a guy and if I ever mentioned that he should go out on a date he would say well kind of have and if he does take me out I see a whole new side he will have me pay for myself he is not a gentleman and he kind of still does whatever he wants to do.  Now I have gone out with guys that have planned in advance, pay for it, and we are paired off.  When they can show you that they can be with just you and care for your needs for even one night they are showing that they are not afraid to commit. Even with them I see a different side then when I am just hanging out.  Like my professor has said many times “The traditions that you start in your dating are going to continue through your marriage and are not likely to change a lot.

Why is it so important to date not to just hang out?  It is important because when we have a date that is planned, paid for, and paired off.  These are things that are showing us how a person really is going to preside, provide, and protect us especially if you are a girl.  For the men it shows how she will nurture the family.  The real question is how would a date show us that and not hanging out? 

Many people will say I am with him or her every night I see him and know him better than anybody else does.  The thing is I have had experience with this when I just hang out with a guy and if I ever mentioned that he should go out on a date he would say well kind of have and if he does take me out I see a whole new side he will have me pay for myself he is not a gentleman and he kind of still does whatever he wants to do.  Now I have gone out with guys that have planned in advance, pay for it, and we are paired off.  When they can show you that they can be with just you and care for your needs for even one night they are showing that they are not afraid to commit. Even with them I see a different side then when I am just hanging out.  Like my professor has said many times “The traditions that you start in your dating are going to continue through your marriage and are not likely to change a lot.

Are gender roles really important and are many of our attributes natural or are they learned? It is very interesting to see how much of our personality starts to come to the surface at such a young age.  I have two older brothers and then there is me. I am the youngest and the only girl.  While I was growing up my parents would always mention that it was so different raising a girl after having the two boys.  They said we have the same way of raising all the kids but you respond differently.  They mentioned this ever since I was a baby. I would play differently with toys and I automatically always want the girly pink toys instead of action figures.  Could it really be that we are automatically different when we are born?

I believe that we are born differently for a reason, and that we have separate and divine roles.  Without each of us having our individual and divine roles we would be at a loss.  These individual roles that we are born with are there for a reason.  When we join in marriage between a man and a woman we bring our strengths together.  If we really thing about it most of our strengths over power and help with our spouses weaknesses.  For example most women are very big worriers and most men are very relaxed about things together we teach each other how to meet in the middle of the two.  Together we create a way of becoming complete and closer to perfect.