Parenting is a big job but how do we do it most effectively especially when it comes to discipline?  While parenting we do not want to use force and aggression nor punishment.  When disciplining a child we need to take in consideration that they are humans and have feelings as much as we are.  They are not just there for us to boss around. 

In discipline we need to make sure that we show respect and we will receive respect.  We need to not let our anger to take over our mind and mouth but to let our mind take over our anger.  We may start with a polite request such as “would you please have the living room clean before our guests come over?” If this does not work we move to an “I” message in which we express how it makes us feel. For example “I would really appreciate it if you would get this room clean because it really embarrasses me when it is messy and somebody comes over.” We may even have to get to the firm statement. This is just bolder and straight to the point but still not letting our anger overcome us.

The last step is to use logical consequence teach them why it is logical for them to obey.  This also includes asking them to help make the natural consequence.  Many times if we stick with it a child will eventually go overboard on their natural consequence and then it brings you to be a good guy saying no I don’t think we need to go that far.  While they are also learning a lesson.

What we don’t realize when it comes to children their biggest need is to have contact and have belonging.  When children do not get this feeling of love they do rash things to get any attention even if it is not pleasant at least they receive contact.  I believe that to also help become the best discipliner is to show love to your children this will help them stay away from doing dumb things to get your attention. 

Parenting is a big job but how do we do it most effectively especially when it comes to discipline?  While parenting we do not want to use force and aggression nor punishment.  When disciplining a child we need to take in consideration that they are humans and have feelings as much as we are.  They are not just there for us to boss around. 

In discipline we need to make sure that we show respect and we will receive respect.  We need to not let our anger to take over our mind and mouth but to let our mind take over our anger.  We may start with a polite request such as “would you please have the living room clean before our guests come over?” If this does not work we move to an “I” message in which we express how it makes us feel. For example “I would really appreciate it if you would get this room clean because it really embarrasses me when it is messy and somebody comes over.” We may even have to get to the firm statement. This is just bolder and straight to the point but still not letting our anger overcome us.

The last step is to use logical consequence teach them why it is logical for them to obey.  This also includes asking them to help make the natural consequence.  Many times if we stick with it a child will eventually go overboard on their natural consequence and then it brings you to be a good guy saying no I don’t think we need to go that far.  While they are also learning a lesson.

What we don’t realize when it comes to children their biggest need is to have contact and have belonging.  When children do not get this feeling of love they do rash things to get any attention even if it is not pleasant at least they receive contact.  I believe that to also help become the best discipliner is to show love to your children this will help them stay away from doing dumb things to get your attention. 

Why is the Father so instrumental in the family?  Fathers play a huge role in their children’s lives.  They help in so many parts of the growth of children.  I was doing some research on fatherhood and I found some valuable statements that amazed me on how much the father is needed in the family.

            First off God has given us the amazing ability to become parents and it is a calling that is treasured above all others I like a quote that I found that really points this out for father imp articular “God chooses ordinary men for fatherhood to accomplish His extraordinary plan.”  So what are some key points in becoming a perfect father?  I found many ways of doing so but some of my favorites focus on how the need of a father to be involved with his children is tremendous. We can do this by helping them solve problems or to simply participate in activities with our children.  They need to show support not just financially but also emotionally, mentally, physically, socially, and spiritually and should not be ashamed of anything they do.  Love is one of the biggest things a father can do to help his child excel to become an outstanding adult.  Fathers should learn to do this through words and affection which can involve a simple smile.  This is a really hard one for to handle correctly but it is very plausible. 

In discipline a father must learn how to share his beliefs and use explanations and reasoning rather than using force.   Father also needs to learn how to schedule time with their children and to just sacrifice time when it may not always be convenient, as long as just spend time with them they will feel your love.  All of these things are crucial in being a father.  They will help our kids not have as many school dropouts, substance abuse, teen pregnancies, crime and violence, unsuccessful socialization in children, gender development, and aggression.  Which increase from an absence of a father.